Keeping Your Word

Little things mean so much to small children. As a little girl, I remember waiting and waiting for something because my mom said “maybe next time we’ll do that.”  In my mind that meant, “Yes, of course we’ll do that!” and was disappointed when it didn’t happen. It wasn’t even something major but I remember thinking that my mom didn’t keep her word. As a child that was really upsetting. Now as a mom, I wonder how often I do the exact same thing!!

After the time change, Colin came into our room at 3:50 am and asked me if I would take him to Starbucks before school. (Please keep in mind that it was 3:50 in the morning!!) I mumbled something like “we’ll see” and put him back to bed. Well, that set an expectation that we were going to go to Starbucks. With three small children (and also the fact that Colin is at kindergarten in Mount Pleasant by 7:45), going out for breakfast is a very rare occasion!

He asked each morning and I’d have a reason why we couldn’t go. We talk so much about “keeping our word” in our family. I realized that, in his eyes, I wasn’t keeping mine.

So — I woke up really early yesterday morning and we left home around 7:00. And went to Starbucks. And I had the most special time with my little guy! I’m so thankful that we made this happen. These little things mean so much.

Matthew 5:37a ~ Simply let your ‘yes’ be ‘yes’ and your ‘no’ mean ‘no’.

I struggle with promising too much because I hate to disappoint my children. It’s much easier to answer “maybe later” when they ask if we can go to the park when the answer should be, “No. Not today.” I realize that this type of answer probably sets false expectations. I pray that I can break the habit and just let my “yes” mean “yes” and my “no” mean “no”.

Whew! It’s hard being a mom 🙂

Coffee (and Psalm 121)

I’ve never been a coffee drinker. Chad drinks it and I love the smell of coffee brewing in the morning. I just never drank it. I liked coffee ice cream, coffee milk shakes, coffee cake… just not actual coffee.

That all changed while on a vacation soon after Miles was born. Don’t ask me why. I was relaxed and it seemed like an enjoyable thing to do while sitting on a porch swing overlooking a mountain range. BAM!! I was hooked. How did I miss out on this awesome beverage for over three decades? Then my friend Beth introduced me to the non-fat Toffee Nut Latte  (it’s not on the menu but they know what you’re talking about) at Starbucks and I finally understood the Starbucks hype!

Sadly, my affair with coffee has now come to an end. The caffeine was getting to me and adding two packets of Splenda to each cup didn’t help. So…I’m on a caffeine “fast” for the next several weeks. Maybe forever. Two cups a day had become the norm for me so this is hard. I used to get up really early, turn on the fire, do my morning Bible Study, and watch the sun rise. A hot cup of coffee was my companion. Now I feel lost without it!

It goes to show that too much of a good thing can become a problem. I had bad headaches the first week of cutting out caffeine. Now I’m only drinking water and milk and I really do feel much better.

But — boy, I sure do miss my coffee!! Every time I see someone with a hot cup of Joe… I feel the temptation 😦

So next time I’m in the mountains, I will take in the scenery without a hot cup of coffee and meditate on this great verse:

I will lift up my eyes to the mountains — from whence comes my help? My help comes from the Lord who made heaven and earth. He will not allow your foot to be moved. He who keeps you will not slumber. Behold, He who keeps Israel shall neither slumber nor sleep. Psalm 121:1-2.

I love that verse. When I am anxious and have trouble resting, it’s good to know that He’s awake and in control so that I can sleep.

And maybe the lack of coffee will help me to focus more on Him and what He’s teaching me as the sun rises in the morning!

(That’s actually a photo at dusk but I thought it was pretty ;))